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Traveling Pants Not Required

 “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”
Hebrews 10:24-25(ESV)

I’ve been feeling guilty and it’s time to confess.

Seems lately friends have been in and out of hospitals, going through a crisis, running on fumes, faking a smile just to get through the day. Have I been there for all of them?

I want to be the kind of friend who calls, visits, sends cards, prepares meals; I’ll have to say quite honestly, at times I’m not good at it. So many needs, and only one me.

Prayer and encouragement are my gifts, but ask me to prepare and deliver a meal, and I’m running for the hills (actually, I should say running for the beach. You don’t see many hills in Florida).

Why is that? I’m a decent cook. For some reason, I’m clueless when it comes to figuring out what to prepare for someone else. You too? I thank God for the local grocery store’s rotisserie chicken dinners. That I can do.

How about those greeting cards? I buy them, write them out, and there they sit in my purse, lipstick stained and dog-eared, until finally reaching the awkward too-far-beyond-event-date to mail. Please tell me this happens to you.

We want to be there for every friend, for every need, for every crisis. How do we do that? As women, we feel it’s our job to fix everything. Can you relate?

Here’s the good news:

When we are in Christ, we are members of Sisters image for devotionala sisterhood. We are in the club.

You know the best part?

We’ve got each others back, membership is free,

and we don’t need traveling pants.

The guilt lifts as God reminds me, I’m not called to do it all. I can’t. I’m called to use the gifts He has given me, not try to borrow someone else’s.

I’m not called to be who I think I should be,

I’m called to be me.

What have I learned? To grow in community together with the sisterhood.

A sisterhood can accomplish infinitely more than anything we could attempt to achieve on our own.

I encourage you to pray for sisters you can break bread with, have fun with, speak truth with; sisters who plan on sharing eternity with the same Father.

What a relief to finally accept we are not called to do it all.

Our humanness reminds us we can’t be in multiple places at the same time; thankfully, we have an omnipresent God. We can trust Him to send the right person to the right friend at the right time, and it won’t always be us.

Today, let’s be still and listen for God’s voice; He will direct each step and reveal exactly where He wants us to be.

Much Love In Christ,


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7 thoughts on “Traveling Pants Not Required

  1. Amen, Doris! I’ve often felt the same way and I finally realized I can’t do it all either, especially with young children. Thank you for this reminder to give my “best yes.”

  2. Ugh! I struggle with this too! I want to be there for everyone, but I just can’t because I am not God, of course. He can be there for everyone and anytime. Phew! What a load off my back. Great reminder Doris.

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