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Overcoming the Imperfection Obsession

May 31, 2017

While on a recent visit to our local ice cream shop, I said something cringe-worthy. My grandson and I waited in line and when we finally reached the counter, I turned to him and blurted out:

“I’m not having ice cream today so I can get thin enough to have ice cream.”

As soon as the words left my mouth and fell on his ears, I wanted to reel them back in. But it was too late. Epic fail. Self-condemnation doesn’t exactly qualify as a teachable moment.

It’s true I skipped the ice cream and normally would gladly accept a high-five for my self-deprivation, but I can’t. You see, I wasn’t in the mood for ice cream anyway. So no brownie points for this girl’s self-control when no control of self was necessary.

To top that off, the woman in line in front of me had my legs. Well, not my legs, but the legs I wished I had…

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Is There a Better Way to Tell Time?

March 11, 2017


I’ve been guilty of it too, so no finger-pointing from this girl.

We know how it goes. The I’ll try to make it results in I’m sorry I couldn’t make it. We have good intentions initially, but when go-time comes around, are we showing? Are we going?

Try. It means to make an effort to do something. What if someone asked us, “Well, how hard did you try?” Oh snap.

What if we changed the way we thought about our time? What if we shared more of it instead of keeping it to ourselves?

Before you hit me over the head with your purse, protecting our time for good reasons is essential in keeping some resemblance of sanity.

Spending time with family, time in the Word, time in prayer, all good. We need refreshment for our souls and nurturing for our faith. We can even take time for ourselves without feeling guilty, but that’s not what I’m talking about.

There’s a difference between taking time for ourselves and being selfish with our time. 

We don’t have to say yes to everything, but let’s be sure our no is for the right reasons.

Confession time: There have been times I’ve said no for selfish reasons. Imagine that? You too?

I know there have been times when I should have said yes. Times when I was meant to be somewhere for someone, but I wasn’t.

Couldn’t it just all balance out?

Couldn’t we just count all the times we did show, did keep a divine appointment, did extend beyond ourselves, to make up for all those selfish time-hogging-didn’t-try-all-that-hard times? Something tells me it doesn’t work that way.

But saying yes for the right reasons is also important to remember. Besides being selfish with our time, we can also spend too much of it. If the yes isn’t meant for us we could be unintentionally robbing it. How?

We can easily become over-zealous and step on the toes of someone else’s calling. Ouch.

The yes or no dilemma can make us dizzy. The key is prayer and seeking God’s face and His will in all things. We want to be the kind of Jesus follower who answers the call. Our call. We’re not the answer to every need, Jesus is.

What comes to mind when you hear the term “timeshare”? Most of us, including Google, associate the term with telemarketers selling vacation weeks. Perhaps we need to take back that term for the body of Christ. Just a little time shared from each of us can change lives.

Snippets of time add up to a lifetime and chunks of time are being squandered when they could be sacred.

Even just an hour of our time shared could impact someone else’s life for eternity, or at least for an hour.

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. Ephesians 5:15-17 ESV

This weekend we set our clocks ahead one hour. Daylight Savings Time. We change time. The purpose is to make better use of natural daylight. How can we make better use of the light we’ve been given? Let us consider how our time can change the world for Christ. Even a snippet goes a long way.

There’s a better way to tell time. We can set it to the eternal clock and spend it for a purpose. Time shared can change lives.

How can we be more intentional with our time today?

Share your thoughts…


The Holy Bible, English Standard Version. ESV® Permanent Text Edition® (2016). Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.



Why Giving Up is Not an Option

October 31, 2015


Photo credit Rula Sibai (creative commons)

We’ve been lying to ourselves, haven’t we?

I know how it goes.

We tell ourselves confidence is based on worldly standards, that someone else is a better version of us.

We feel like giving in.

We tell ourselves we’ve reached our full potential, that this is it, this is as far as we can go.

We feel like giving out.

We tell ourselves our calling is too hard.

We feel like giving up.

But the truth is, calling it quits robs the future. It takes what could be and makes it never will.

Let’s not rob future moments of joy with current moments of doubt. {tweet that}

Let’s not trade God’s plans of purpose for our white flag of I can’t do it.

Let’s trade moments of discouragement, for moments with Jesus who totally gets it. Gets us.

And how long is a moment anyway?

Our plates are full girls, and we say adding one more thing will surely cause a melt-down. But what if that one more thing could make all the other things easier?

We don’t need a bigger plate, we need bigger faith.

What is that one more thing we are holding back from? That one more thing could be the very thing where our dreams and calling collide. Now put your fingertips together to meet your thumb, move your hand close to your temple, now slowly pull your hand away as you snap your palm wide open while making an explosion sound with your mouth.

When we give up, we let others down, because they’ll never hear what we were born to say. They’ll never be the receiver of what God calls us to do.

God won’t leave them lacking, it’s us who’ll be lacking. We’ll miss being a blessing and receiving a blessing, and walking in His delight. I don’t want to miss all that, do you?

By the way, if there was a better version of us, we wouldn’t be here.

Let’s stop believing in what we can’t accomplish, and start believing God’s promise of exceedingly, abundantly more. Some may equate that to money, but money can’t buy our purpose, and money can’t buy God’s plans for us.

Even if they were for sale, we couldn’t afford them. They’re priceless.

Take one of the moments we’ve been talking about, and make four lists :

List A = Things I do best

List B = Things I have no business doing (because I remain forever clueless)

List C =  Things I love doing

List D =  The hardest things I’ve ever done

Keep it simple, and list four or five things under each heading. Don’t overthink them, and be sure to write them down. Examine your answers and note similarities among the different lists. See anything interesting?

We are all called to fulfill a purpose. We may not know what will happen twenty steps from now, but as for now, taking one step is moving forward.

On cloudy days, we can still get a sunburn and when life gets cloudy, God is still there.

How about you? Is there a next step God is asking you to take, yet you’ve been holding back? What did the list exercise reveal?

Share a comment, and may all your moments be blessed. XO


Photo credit: Ruba Sibai (creative commons)









Step Out of Your Doubt and Into Your Calling

July 2, 2015

Hi Friends!

I’m excited to share this article I wrote on leadership, published today at Just Between Friends. If you haven’t already done so, consider signing up for their free newsletter.

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May the Lord bless you and remember this, He will equip you in whatever He calls you to do.

Love in Christ,


Traveling Pants Not Required

September 12, 2014

 “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.”
Hebrews 10:24-25(ESV)

I’ve been feeling guilty and it’s time to confess.

Seems lately friends have been in and out of hospitals, going through a crisis, running on fumes, faking a smile just to get through the day. Have I been there for all of them?

I want to be the kind of friend who calls, visits, sends cards, prepares meals; I’ll have to say quite honestly, at times I’m not good at it. So many needs, and only one me.

Prayer and encouragement are my gifts, but ask me to prepare and deliver a meal, and I’m running for the hills (actually, I should say running for the beach. You don’t see many hills in Florida).

Why is that? I’m a decent cook. For some reason, I’m clueless when it comes to figuring out what to prepare for someone else. You too? I thank God for the local grocery store’s rotisserie chicken dinners. That I can do.

How about those greeting cards? I buy them, write them out, and there they sit in my purse, lipstick stained and dog-eared, until finally reaching the awkward too-far-beyond-event-date to mail. Please tell me this happens to you.

We want to be there for every friend, for every need, for every crisis. How do we do that? As women, we feel it’s our job to fix everything. Can you relate?

Here’s the good news:

When we are in Christ, we are members of Sisters image for devotionala sisterhood. We are in the club.

You know the best part?

We’ve got each others back, membership is free,

and we don’t need traveling pants.

The guilt lifts as God reminds me, I’m not called to do it all. I can’t. I’m called to use the gifts He has given me, not try to borrow someone else’s.

I’m not called to be who I think I should be,

I’m called to be me.

What have I learned? To grow in community together with the sisterhood.

A sisterhood can accomplish infinitely more than anything we could attempt to achieve on our own.

I encourage you to pray for sisters you can break bread with, have fun with, speak truth with; sisters who plan on sharing eternity with the same Father.

What a relief to finally accept we are not called to do it all.

Our humanness reminds us we can’t be in multiple places at the same time; thankfully, we have an omnipresent God. We can trust Him to send the right person to the right friend at the right time, and it won’t always be us.

Today, let’s be still and listen for God’s voice; He will direct each step and reveal exactly where He wants us to be.

Much Love In Christ,