Category Archives: emotions
Can we be real?
We collectively spend an exorbitant amount of time struggling with feelings and emotions. One day we’re good, we’re getting it done. The next day we’re a blubbering mess. We don’t plan it that way and it often takes us by surprise.
We say things like, “Where did that come from?” and “Wow, what is wrong with me today?”. We blame it on hormones, lack of sleep, disappointments, mean people…
I do it too, so believe me, I know.
Absolutely true, there are physical and medical reasons for emotional melt-downs. We live in these mortal bodies and they’re not perfect. But wouldn’t you agree, a good number of emotional melt-downs are the it’s all about me reason? The I, the self? Maybe we find it hard to readily admit the truth behind the messiness.
Photography is not my gift. I have no talent for capturing candid shots. Half the time even my cell tells me I “cannot take photo”. I know it’s nothing personal, my storage is full or some such ridiculous reason, but after a while it could give a girl a complex.
You know what’s scary?
That feature on the cell camera that flips you from focusing outward to seeing your selfie self. I don’t know about you, but it startles me. Can you relate?
Even though I have zero interest in becoming a photographer, there are cool life lessons we uncover when we expand our horizons.
Here’s an interesting fact:
When attempting night photography auto-focus will not work, there’s not enough light. So what do you do? You adjust the focusing ring to align with infinity. I have no idea what this means in photography world, but in every-day world, it makes complete sense.
While I might associate infinity with Buzz Lightyear (simmer down auto-correct, it’s Buzz’s last name) or mathematics, it brings to mind another “nity” word:
When we rely on auto-focus and allow our emotions to run on auto-pilot, a hot mess ensues. When we adjust our focus to align with eternal things, light flows in and we reflect it.
It’s no surprise auto in the Greek means self.
True, we need to self-reflect and keep ourselves in check. The whole plank out of our own eye and love your neighbor as yourself. But the cautionary tale is this:
Another great thing about photography, it’s not about the selfie, it’s about looking outward. It’s about looking beyond self and seeing things in a new way.
What or whom are we focusing on?
Life can have us going in all different directions. We’re not necessarily distracted by evil things, sinful things, but even good things and pleasant things.
Even those good and pleasant things can draw our eyes away from Jesus. It can be subtle, and isn’t that more dangerous than obvious?
Jesus came so we could have life and life more abundantly, but not at the cost of losing sight of Him.
But we’re talking about emotions here. I began writing this post a week ago, and after a blubbering-mess-melt-down, decided today was a good day to finish it. Once I took my eyes off the distraction and placed my focus back on the goodness of the Lord, the waterworks dried up and I’m good. Been there? My poor husband. He’s more glad I’m good than I am.
Living out our message makes truth a powerful thing.
When we feel disconnected and distracted by emotions, remember Jesus said this…
“‘…I am with you always, even to the end of the age.'” Matthew 28:20
When we allow our day to be ruined by emotions, we’ll miss opportunities to be a light to someone else’s lens.
Let light in. Reflect light out. Be light.
God will help us, this He has promised. Don’t be afraid to ask for the help He so generously and mercifully gives.
You are not alone. Ever.
When we focus on the Lord, our emotions transform from a blubbering mess to a joyful message.
So instead of allowing our emotions to get the best of us, let’s show the world the best of us is Jesus.
Feeling frustrated lately? I can relate.
Heading out to meet a friend for lunch, I get into the car, turn the key, and nothing. Not even a click. While contemplating my next move, a cranking noise from the CD player about startled my hair gray.
Why is it my CD player refuses to play CD’s, yet comes alive when the battery goes dead?
l have to admit, at times my emotions can be as cranky as my CD player. I’d like to think I’m ready for unexpected calamities, ready to react all super-spiritual-Christian-like. Then reality hits. I’m human and I can’t control my reactions on my own. I’d better be prayed-up, cause as soon as I think I’ve got it altogether, I’m in trouble.
So how do we react when the unexpected happens? How do we react when someone stomps on our feelings, or worse yet, hurts a family member or friend?
We’d like to believe our sinful behavior is as dead as my battery was; then anger, pride, and a defensive attitude drags us three steps backwards.
So let’s not be all super-spiritual, when what we really need is the supernatural. The Holy Spirit. He teaches us what we ought to say. He is our Helper. We sure do need help, don’t we?
He not only teaches us what to say, He helps us control the things we shouldn’t say. God knew we needed Him, and God supplies all we need. Even a supernatural muzzle.
We’re in this together, so next time Satan lays a snare, let’s try this:
- Pray without ceasing. Call on the Name of the Lord, He hears us. Longer prayers in our prayer closet, and shorter ones throughout our day. We can talk to God anytime, anywhere, and better yet, all the time and everywhere.
- Remember God is for us, not against us. That dead battery may be for a good reason. Why? We may never know, but that’s not important. The key is trust. Let’s trust God and His plan.
- When hurtful words are hurled in our direction, walk away and walk it off.
- If we’re not able to walk away, let’s practice the fruit of the Spirit called self-control, our supernatural muzzle. Deflecting hurtful words by using hurtful words? That’s sin. Let’s not go there.
- We may say we welcome feedback, but what about when it’s constructive? Instead of allowing our defensive Star-Trek force field to rise up around us, assess the words. Do they have merit? If not, keep praising God and allowing truth to defend us. God loves justice. He is our defender. Surrender to the Defender.
- If we believe we are never wrong, something is wrong. We need to take responsibility for our part. Is our first reaction to shift blame? Be honest. This is not including abusive behavior towards us. That is never acceptable.
When those unexpected emotions jump out like guests at a surprise party, tell them the party’s over.
What has thrown you into a tizzy lately?
Here are a few verses to encourage you:
Even so consider yourselves to be dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus. Romans 6:11 NASB
Fools show their annoyance at once, but the prudent overlook an insult. Proverbs 12:16 NIV
For sin shall not be master over you, for you are not under law, but under grace. Romans 6:14 NASB
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you. John 14:26 NKJV
How do these verses speak to you?
If you don’t know Jesus personally, please take time to read the “Meet Jesus” page. He is standing at the door of your heart, gently knocking. Open the door and experience new life.
Love in Jesus, He is The Way
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